Abuse of any kind in any type of relationship is unacceptable and should be dealt with. You do not have to remain in a relationship that is physically, mentally or emotionally damaging. However, when you are married to an abusive spouse, protecting yourself and your children from controlling behavior and violence is more complex.
Mary Astor isn't that 'remembered' today. Most of the people who know who she was, how she sounded and acted, know her for one role only - Brigid O’Shaughnessy in The Maltese Falcon, opposite Humphrey Bogart. She won an Academy award for best supporting actress in 1941, was really big in the early 1930s, but she just didn't make the kind of quality films like Bette Davis to be well remembered today.